“To be permitted by your spouse to indulge in such activities that are normally banned in her absence”
Hah-roomphf. And so begins the battle for time andÂ permission by The Spouse to be allowed to do things without him or her. Oh, the games!Â Listen to enough conversations and you get a glimpse into a lifetime of evolving strategy deployed on both “sides” of the unionÂ in order to achieve some kind of guilt-free, permissible indulgence. And that indulgence could be a race, an event, a night out with the girls or boys, a manicure, shopping trip, business adventure, training hour.. whatever. The battle for time away, the fight forÂ that precious me-time just kind of happens and grows- and the memes and fauxy social circles don’t help either because then we end up not thinking thatÂ it is just the way it is andÂ should be.
More hah-roomphf.Â Instead of cunningly working outÂ your me-time, your precious away time, by paying cash or someÂ penance (aka, planting landmines) why not fight for your spouse’s me-time? Yip.Â Go out of your way to make sure she/he can get to do the things that make him/her happy.Â Actively fight the schedule of busyness to make sure the person youÂ love gets to be the best person they can be. The end.